I am guilty of being a very goal oriented person.
I set myself a list of tasks that's far too long, never get them done and then feel guilty for not having done enough.
This is at it's worst when the kids have gone to bed. Earlier in the day I think of all the things I'm going to get done that evening. Then when it comes to it my wife and I come down stairs feeling like we've fought a battle just to get them in their pyjamas and clean their teeth.
We slump down in the sofa and look at each other, that's when my guilt starts. I feel I need to get myself up and moving, the temptation is to get my phone out and look at it like a zombie, learning nothing and doing nothing.
This is wasting time and it happens more than I'd care to admit.
One thing that isn't wasting time is to talk to my wife.
Frequently we have a few evening where we sit and talk to each other for hours, sometimes about important things, sometimes about nothing at all.
I think I sometimes underestimate how important this is.
Sometimes I'm in danger of thinking that this is wasting time, no goals have been achieved that night, nothing ticked off the list, but I think in the grand scheme of things it's possibly the most important thing we could be doing.
You see with three young children and my wife working full time, giving time to conversation between each other is often hard to come by.
One of the many reasons I fell in love with her in the first place is through my love of conversation with her (if that sounds weird I'm sorry). For years we had a long distance relationship where we'd speak to each other every other night on the phone for an hour. Being able to talk to someone who understands you, is willing to listen and has you're best interests at heart is key to a healthy relationship and when children come on the scene it's very easy to let that slip.
People often ask how I get so much done here, but without my wife none of this would happen.
Working on keeping your relationship strong is probably the most important job you could do on any homestead!